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Grandmother of 4

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Hello,

I would like to tell you a little about myself. I am a grandmother of 4 all under the age of 9. My husband and I have been raising them since their births with no help from the state, mother or father. We both worked and it was never a financial problem.

Things were fine until 2002. That was the year my knees blew out. I have since been off work. I had one knee corrected with surgery twice and re-injured them both a year later. I will explain the second knee later on. With only my husband working and me being denied SSI (they said my arms and brain worked so I didn't qualify) things were a little tight but we managed. The grandkids didn't go without. Then in 2003 my husband lost his job after 30 yrs of service with a clean record. The new owners of the company from Australia, transfered it to Mexico. I husband tried in vain to find another job (he was 51 at the time) but to no avail. We finally exhausted our financial resources and had to apply for state aid. My husband took a NO LIFE/DEATH on his retirement money just to get it up to $312 which was deducted from the Cash Aid check. That left us with only $900 a month for a family of 6. Our rent is $700, elec about $150, gas about $101, phone $50. This did not include gas for the car for trips to the Welfare office, dr appointments, insurance, repairs for the car, clothes for the children and diapers for 2 babies. We received $400 in Food Stamps which helped a great deal. I received medical coverage (barely) from the state. My husband was denied because he was not considered the primary caregiver of the children. I told them that we both raise the children but to no avail. I argued that my husband was seeing a heart specialist when we had private insurance. Still to no avail. I said that we (my family) are in poverty and we cannot survive for long on this amount. She just agreed with me and handed me my papers.

I started an online store in hopes of replacing what my husband and I used to make. I was planning on promoting it on the road to select groups, but my husband started to sleep more and that was leaving the grandchildren in danger so I had to try through word of mouth and emails. Not a choice I approve of. It has been an ongoing struggle to get it off the ground. Then the transmission went out on my car, thus limiting me to only driving in my own city. 23 mph is the best I dare go with the car. I do not have the $2700 they want to fix it.

Then the hardest blow came. 

On May 27, 2006..........my husband died in his sleep of a heart attack at the age of 53. I nor the grandchildren receive anything from his SS. I was told I had to wait until I was 50. Our Cash Aid check did go up to $900 and for some reason the food stamps went up $150. I asked my cash worker if I could have the food stamp increase added to my Cash Aid because I DO know how to stretch a dollar when it comes to food and it was needed there more. I was told that wasn't possible. I told her about the problems I have had getting a response back from the 2 new caseworkers I was assigned the first of the yr (2006) about my husband getting medical coverage. She told me to have him come down and she will get it for him. I then told her he died 2 wks ago.

Since then, we have had our electricity (the Salvation Army wrote us a "one-time-only" check), the phone shut off which prevented me from accessing my online store for 4 months, our gas almost shut off (I am on a payment plan now of $56 a month), my daughter (the mother of the children)  which has a problem with undesirables break into my house and stole my business checks. Checks were written out to the amunt of over $2000 in one month. A $300 check went through before my rent check did which caused an overage since I did not make it to the bank to deposit the Cash Aid check prior. Unknowingly, my rent check bounced because of this. Now my landlady's new husband wants to double my rent to $1400 and "suggested we look for a new place."  I now have high blood pressure with a heart condition and my knee specialist at the county hospital said that my knee will have to be replaced in 5 years....hence no surgery to correct it so I CAN work. Still SSI denies me because not one doctor will sign the proper forms. But they tell me during the visits that I have to be careful I could fall just by walking breaking the knee completly and I could have a heart attack if my blood pressure and stress level doesn't come down. My GP was under medicating me for months on my blood pressure and the heart specialist doubled the dose.

The only places available to us are cockroach infested with gang activity constantly, and in a slum lord condition. A 1 bedroom for $750 + $750 deposit + $750 last.  

I desperately need cash so I can find a better place for my 4 grandchildren and I to live and to repair my car for the move. My family and my husband's, refuse to help because of the illigitimate grandchildren. My grandchildren and I have been through so much emotionally, the oldest is not doing poorly in school and getting into fights. I have sold what I can and anything else I have for sale like on LiveDeal or Craigslist have not sold.

I have tried everything I know to get money together for us but the amounts I have gotten have gone to getting the phone back on and bills partially paid.

If you could send just 1 dollar, that would be one more dollar than we had before toward our salvation in this expensive town. If you would like to help us, you can place the money in our PayPal account: shopper441@msn.com .

I do what I can when I can for other people in similar cases. A homeless person I will get a sandwich (you cannot buy hot food with Food Stamps) from the deli, milk and some orange juice along with some other fruits when I go grocery shopping.

We hope you will find it in your hearts to help us. I cannot repay you for your contribution, but let it be known....your generosity will be highly appreciated and rewarded in many ways.

We thank you all.

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DevotedAnimalLover2012
I'm sorry to hear about your situation? But have you ever been to housing, foodstamps, places where your bills get paid! I think we that are in SSI are in the same situation as yourslf. I live with my mother and I pay $400 a month for one small room, I buy my own food, soap, toliet paper even trash bags because I use that one restroom. If I cook I have to pay half the gas n of course wash my own dishes. I don't have children only the Lord knws why he didn't send me none. I was married for 18 yrs to a great man until he became born again christian n though he was GOD it went to his head n he changed totally. In 2003 I became disabled lost my home, got divorced, bc he didn't want to pay for it anymore n all we needed was one year. my dad died, I got back surgery, lost my grandmother and try to end my life. It all just came into my heart where I just didnt' want to live anymore. I live in Tx I don't know where you live but here we r allowed to buy juice, deli, even Icee with foodstamps as long as the straw is not on it. I understand you say you live in a house infested with roaches,etc. but there are ppl who can helped you because you have children. I have animals and they suffer too because even though I pay rent i'm not allowed to bring them out of my little room I rent from my mom bc she doesn't allowed that. Yet i take them walking every other day to get them out. I pray to the Lord to get me out of her even if it's 1 bedroom i'll be happy. Since my dad has died i have not been the same anymore i have depression, insommia, panic attacks/phobias, pain, had have 10 surgeries from 2003-2011 and getting ready to have 3 more in the coming yr or next. I do thank GOD everyday for my life n evn though I'm stuck here I know one day he will give me a home. You ask for cash but I'm sorry but there r so many ppl who lied, and just make up things to get money. I don't see any type of pictures showing on here how you lived, etc. If I was asking for the same aas you I would take pics of my room where only my rented hosp bed fits, my tv n a night stand. with my 2 dogs n 2 cats. I cry a lot everyday not just for me but for my animals, animals are my passion If I would not have fallen down so many times I could have been a vet tech. I went to school for 6 yrs n for nothing bc when my back doc said I'm sorry your not going to bed able to become what you want too. I started to cry n just didn't care anymore. Then after years went by I accepted it just like i accpeted not being able to have children. it was very hard but i did it. I now feed any dog or cat in my neighborhood n helped them how ever i can. If i had my own home even a ranch i would take them all because ppl are so CRUEL to animals they have feeling too n if you cannot efford one you should not have them. ANIMALS are my weakness n all i can do is pray for them n hope one day the lord will give me a home of my own. If it's true what ur saying you too can pray because remember anything is possible with GOD. God bless you and i hope you will find it in your heart to get help from ppl who can helped you especially because you have CHILDREN. I see you meation a lot about your rent and $$$$$$$ yet you don't say where ur from and I see your e-mail starts w (shopper) lol not too be funny but I just don't believe you. God be with you I hope you will find it in your heart to get help because for a person your age and with kids you shoud have already had a home in housing and food stamps for those kids!!!! Good Luck!!!!
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to grandmother of 4: My prayers are with you. I have taken on many young people including my grandchild who had no place else to go. Don't let others harsh words affect you. Be encouraged. Look to God. It was he who has brought you this far... and he didn't bring you this far to leave you Pastor in Ohio

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